You say:
In Matthew 9:14-17 Jesus was asked about fasting he gave three example two of them were not to put new wine in a used wineskins and not patching an old coat with a brand new piece of cloth. My question: What is the relation between this and fasting, what that these examples are saying?
The passage in question:
Mat 9:14-17 Then the disciples of John came to him, saying, “Why do we and the Pharisees fast, but your disciples do not fast?” (15) And Jesus said to them, “Can the wedding guests mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them? The days will come when the bridegroom is taken away from them, and then they will fast. (16) No one puts a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch tears away from the garment, and a worse tear is made. (17) Neither is new wine put into old wineskins. If it is, the skins burst and the wine is spilled and the skins are destroyed. But new wine is put into fresh wineskins, and so both are preserved.”
The disciples of John should have listened to John when he identified Jesus as the Messiah. (John 1:28-37) They should have left off following John and followed Jesus. They were trying to combine the old ways with the new ways and it didn’t work. They needed to joyfully follow their Messiah and while he was still with them, there was no reason to fast, but to rejoice. See Isaiah 61:
Isa 61:1-3 The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me, because the LORD has anointed me to bring good news to the poor; he has sent me to bind up the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound; (2) to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn; (3) to grant to those who mourn in Zion– to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit; that they may be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he may be glorified.
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